No Bullsh#t Guides

  I had an interesting conversation recently with a young man who had experienced quite a traumatic relationship breakdown with his (so he thought) soulmate, forever partner, future wife etc. I could very much relate and empathise to his situation having gone through similar situations in the past myself, and also having friends and family experience the same. In my experience, and having discussed with mentors, friends and other trusted individuals, it always seemed to be the case that in a relationship breakdown, predominantly,  it took the man significantly longer to recover emotionally than the female in the relationship. (in most cases it was the females decision to end things, primarily because of unfaithfulness on their part).     One possible explanation is that societal norms often encourage men to suppress their emotions and not openly express vulnerability. This can lead to men internalising their feelings and dealing with the pain in ways that may se...

Personal responsibility is like a double-edged sword; it can be both a blessing and a curse. Why? Well, because it means owning up to every action, accepting the consequences, and refusing to make excuses. It's about acknowledging mistakes, learning from them, and striving for improvement. Here's the real deal: Blessing or Curse? It Depends on You Taking personal responsibility is a choice, and whether it's a blessing or a curse depends on how you approach it. Embrace it, and it becomes a powerful force for personal growth and positive change. Reject it, and it can lead to stagnation and missed opportunities. Every Action Has a Consequence In life, there's a cause and effect for everything. If you make good choices, positive outcomes usually follow. Conversely, poor decisions can lead to unfavourable consequences. Personal responsibility means understanding this fundamental truth and being prepared to face the results of your actions. No Excuses, No Bullsh#t The blame g...

  Some thoughts, gathered from personal failures, anecdotes from others, hard gained experience and valued mentorship. As the old song goes: “I wish that I knew what I know now, when I was younger….” In the age of smartphones, finding someone who isn't tethered to their mobile device can feel like a rare gem. But when you're on a date, that glowing screen can be an unwelcome third wheel. Let's be clear: your time and presence are valuable. If your date is constantly engrossed in their phone, it's time to consider sending them packing. Here's why and how to do it. Respect Is Non-Negotiable:    Respect is the foundation of any meaningful connection. When your date can't peel their eyes away from their screen, it sends a clear message: they don't value your time or the opportunity to get to know you.  Real Connections Require Real Presence:    Meaningful connections happen when two people are fully present with each other. If your date is more intere...

A few thoughts, gathered from personal failures, anecdotes from others, hard gained experience and valued mentorship. Now, I stopped dating 25 years ago, because I finally found the person whom I wanted to be exclusive with. This was after approximately 20 years of dating from (age 15), a number of heartbreaks, and 1 failed marriage (she cheated on me!). As the old song goes: “I wish that I knew what I know now, when I was younger….”  Rushing in because the sap is rising.. One of the most common mistakes that men make when they begin dating or looking for a partner is rushing into a relationship without taking the time to truly get to know the person they're dating. This can manifest in several ways, today let's concentrate on: Rushing Commitment: Some men may feel pressure to quickly define the relationship, label it as exclusive, or make long-term commitments before they've had a chance to really understand their compatibility with the person they're dating. This can ...

  In the hustle and bustle of modern life, many of us find ourselves searching for something more—a sense of purpose and fulfilment that goes beyond the daily grind. If you've ever asked yourself, "What is my true calling? What would make me truly happy?" you're not alone. Finding your purpose is a journey that can be both exciting and challenging. In this article, we'll explore the quest for purpose and how coaching can play a pivotal role in helping you discover and embrace it. The Quest for Purpose and Fulfilment Every person's journey toward purpose is unique. It's a deeply personal quest that often involves self-discovery, reflection, and growth. Purpose is not just about what you do for a living; it's about aligning your actions, values, and passions to create a life that feels deeply meaningful and fulfilling. The Role of a Coach A life coach can be your trusted guide on this journey. Here's how coaching can assist you in finding your purpos...

In the era of self-help and personal development, there's no shortage of advice on how to attract the opposite sex. You've probably heard countless tips and tricks claiming to be the keys to success in the dating game. But let's cut the fluff and get real—chasing excellence, not women, should be your primary focus. It's a concept championed by Rich Cooper, the Unplugged Alpha, who has outlined 20 red flags to help men navigate the world of dating and relationships. In this no-nonsense guide, we'll explore why prioritising personal growth and self-improvement is not just a mantra but a path to a more fulfilling life. The Trap of Chasing Women: We've all seen it—guys who make women the centre of their universe. They hop from one relationship to another, seeking validation, and sacrificing their dreams and ambitions along the way. It's a cycle that often leads to disappointment, heartbreak, and a lack of fulfilment. Enter Rich Cooper and the Unplugged Alpha: Ri...

  In a world filled with motivational jargon and complex self-help strategies, sometimes what we need is a straightforward approach to staying motivated and focused. This No Bullsh#t guide cuts through the fluff and gets to the heart of the matter. Whether you're tackling work, personal projects, or any endeavour that requires your unwavering attention, these five simple, actionable tips will keep you on track. No fancy buzzwords, no vague promises—just practical advice that works. So, if you're ready to roll up your sleeves and get things done, let's dive in. Set Clear Goals (and Write Them Down):    - To stay motivated, you need a target. Define your goals clearly, whether they're daily tasks or long-term aspirations. Writing them down makes them tangible and reinforces your commitment. Keep your goals visible to serve as a constant reminder of what you're working toward. Break Tasks into Bite-Sized Chunks:    - Big tasks can be overwhelming, sapping...